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July 11, 2016

It's Time to Make Friends: How to Get to Know Your New College Roommate

Many students spend time in the months leading up to the start of the college year enjoying themselves at home. However, as the school year approaches, it becomes more important to reach out and make some new friends. In particular, you'll want to take steps to make friends with the person who will become your roommate. After all, you'll see this person more than any other on campus by sharing conversations, amenities, and study space. So, how do you form a connection with someone you don't know?

Connect Before the Move in Day

One of the first steps to take as the summer rolls on is to reach out to your soon-to-be roommate. Most colleges will select roommates randomly, but they give out contact information. This is beneficial to all involved. You can plan on furnishings to bring with you and discuss any concerns you have in advance.

  • Send off an email to your roommate to make that initial contact.
  • If you live close enough, suggest a lunch date to get to know each other.
  • Use Skype or text messages to get the conversation going.
  • Connect on Facebook and other social media tools you use.
  • Don't be afraid to pick up the phone for a quick conversation either.

Forming a friendship early on like this can really be an exciting opportunity for both of you. If your roommate does not seem to want to interact, don't push it or take it as an offensive act.

Making That First Impression Work

When you do finally meet, make the effort to really engage with each other. Smile and be friendly. Don't act like you've known your roommate all of your life, but be welcoming and inviting to each other. You'll want to try your best to get the conversation moving in the right direction. To do that, ask the right questions:

  • Where did you go to high school?
  • What classes are you taking? What's your major?
  • What are your favorite TV shows, artists, etc?
  • What do you like to do for fun?
  • What are your favorite movies of all time?

Breaking the ice doesn't have to be a challenge. The most important thing to do is to simply be yourself.

Forming a Bond

Now that you are moving in and working on that arrangement for your dorm room, the next step is to spend some time together. Tour the campus together. Spend some time at lunch. Attend student events together. Make it a point to talk to each other before going to bed at night. It takes work, but it can be very much worthwhile to put that extra effort in now. Most of the time, both roommates are nervous and unsure of what to expect not to mention what to do. Don't force the situation, but be friendly and open to your roommate in those first few days. You'll both appreciate it later. Who knows? You might end up with the “friend who sticks closer than a brother” that Proverbs talks about.

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